WHAT WOMEN WANT
No, am not answering the whole question, just a very small part of it.

When a woman falls into a relationship, she normally looks for a man, who isn't a man right now, but can be groomed into one.
Women, by instinct, get attracted towards the male aggressiveness; but by logic, they know that it can be dangerous at times. This is not a dichotomy. All they want is controlled aggression, and only when required, whether for mental or for physical gratification.
This is something that most men fail to understand.

When a woman falls in a relationship, she normally likes men with boyish qualities. This is because, very few women have an appetite for aggressiveness at the outset. So they will normally date boys hidden in male bodies.
But when the question of marriage comes, they will need a man. He needs to be 'controlled' aggressive, mature......., what all boys cant be. This is difficult to achieve in men, because, they never understand what is expected out of them. The women, who were earlier very loving, appear to be very demanding. Coupled with other things, this leads to breakdowns in relationships.

So, for all men out there, realize that if you want to date a woman, show her the boy inside you. But if you want to marry her, reveal your mature manhood, if you have it, as soon as she is physically comfortable with you and starts trusting you.
Else that dating-courting game will never convert itself into a lasting relationship. The choice is yours.

Women will date boys and marry men.
Not a dichotomy, just a survival instinct.