THE BASE OF ALL RELATIONS: RESPECT

What according to you is the base of all relations? Father-Daughter, Wife-Husband, Friend-Friend etc ? What bonds them to each other?
It is love in family and friendship outside the family, or some other feeling that depends on the nature of the relation. Do you think that the base varies with all relations?
Scrutinize your relations. There will be one common thread through all of them all. That will be Respect. Yes, Respect is the base of all relations.

Whom do you love the most. In turn you will respect them the most. Who have stopped carrying meaning to you? The ones who lost your respect.

Respect is not a quality associated with old age or based on some other necessary condition. It follows a very simple logic- You have to be worthy enough to earn somebody's respect. Respect is a spontaneous admiration of somebody else's specific qualities and general personality, no way related to age, caste, sex etc.

You don't respect someone because he is your father. He has to prove himself worthy of that title. Your mother, wife, friend etc have to prove themselves to be worthy of that title, else that title remains, the underlying feeling disappears.

The day you loose respect for your father, you don't like to spend a single moment more with him. He will still be a father, because you cant undo your birth, but you will prefer to disassociate yourself from him.

The day you loose respect for your wife, even if she looks like a fairy, you would not love
her anymore. You will prefer divorce, than to spend more time pretending to love her.

The day you loose respect for a friend, that friendship stops carrying meaning. You will mentally move out of the friendship, as that friend will become irrelevant to you.

Scrutinize your own actions. You will be a real mother, husband, girlfriend, son, friend only if your actions earn you the respect of your daughter, wife, boyfriend, father, friend etc. Respect will always be the base of all relations. Destroy respect, and the relation will become
superficial, if it remains at all.

Earn respect of your spouse, friend, family member, everybody, because without it, all your relations are really meaningless.