THE MALE DICHOTOMY

Men normally like to date "hot" women, but marry women they can take to their moms.
And then men claim "It's so difficult to understand women".

Why such a dichotomy?

The most obvious answer is that men will instinctively run after beautiful women. So that's the kind they will date. But when it comes to marriage, they prefer someone homely. Why? Because at this conjuncture, they will remember their mom and sisters, and if they have been very homely, men will like a woman similar to them.

Men understand that they themselves are narrow minded and insecure. Such a man might love seeing g-strings on attractive women, but he cant tolerate that on his wife. Since his childhood, the image of woman that is hardwired into his brain is of a 'sati-savitri' (Hindi for ideal home-maker husband doter). So the 'type' of woman who shows her g-strings to people is not acceptable for marriage, but is ok for fun.

Men are inherently insecure with 'hot' women. They fear that they would not be able to keep 'such' women satisfied, either emotionally or physically in the long run. Moreover, they expect 'such' women to have a high libido, and because they don't understand the unconcerned way in which they behave, they cant keep 'such' women happy. (See FEMALE SEXUAL OPPRESSION below)

The only way out is that men need to break out of their foolish shells that they live in. They need to better focus on the needs of their partners, whatever they may be.
So, the best way to settle down in a relationship is to get out of this dichotomy and marry the person who attracts you most and keep you satisfied for life. Else, any marriage not based on attraction (see below: LOVE) is bound to fail.